You can pretty much count on life handing you a big bag full of disappointment at one time or another, and it usually comes in 2 main varieties: disappointment in ourselves; disappointment in others. The question is what to do with this uncomfortable feeling. Life’s failure to meet expectations is something that comes up a lot in therapy. And disappointment is almost like a skill we have to learn. It’s part of life. How do you rise from the ashes? Roll with the punches? Pick your
metaphor here. In therapy we try and figure it out together. For starters, we look at:
- Reasonableness of expectations of self and others
- Is perfectionism or Type A-ness getting in the way?
- Willingness to learn from the experience